The Great FALL; Men handling Heartache

THE GREAT FALL; MEN HANDLING HEARTACHE

Insecure, and the beautiful ISSA with the assist to my blog. 

For my female readers I'm assuming you would want some insight on what goes on in a man's brain. More importantly, during what is going through our minds, all while experiencing a heartache... this topic relates to both parties, in a sense in which those men who experience it and their actions vs. the Ex-partner who has to deal with the heartbreakee. In regards to the topic, this was one that I've endured some difficulties. Comprehending something I am not familiar with at all, nonetheless i was gonna tackle this shit regardless...which puts me at a crossroad.. It's a bothersome topic, revealing our vulnerable, irrational, and, at times, misunderstood side ..  Yet i feel a slight bit of guilt, i am in full support of my brothers' betrayal, putting them on trial all for the subject of a "heartache." There are also various of forms of how one may encounter it, or receive it. On the other hand, it's a spectrum of an individual's emotional pain... Which can vary from the lower or higher end. What I HAVE mother fucking found is there is an overall generalized behavior on how us men (they) deal with shit, aka the big hurt... to understand heartache i must... ask myself a question, that is, the foundation of heartbreak and it is "how do men even VIEW LOVE?" ... to receive any heartbreak, you must have Loved? Makes sense? This is my realization on how we deal with an heartache in the first place and the value and understanding of love, and what it really means to us. 

What do men think about "Love?"

Poor Rob Stark took a dagger and lost a war for love

"Fuck that shit" is what really comes to mind when that subject is presented. It's been known since the early days of civilization. Men were warriors: destructive, seekers of power, conquerers, aggressors, power seekers and there is no room for stuff like that... Yes, we are all well and far beyond those barbaric times... although we are, we aren't off from the same teachings that has been passed down from man to man. The idea of having to be mentally unbreakable, emotionless, and basically brainwashed & tattooed with the term "man up" or "be a man" on our forehead.  Let's not forget that it has become almost a standard of upbringing as well, a built-in-society construct... Almost as if it's a rite of passage... the teachings that society has engraved on us, these ideas that are enabled sometimes by adults, teachers, parents (yes mom and grandma included) coaches, jobs/career fields, cultures, and religions. In any situation, being kind or loving for men in whatever sense, has always been a sign of weakness, a lot of men will treat love or believe falling in love will be their downfall. it's like the phrase "The less you love, the less you have to lose." Love can be misunderstood as selfish and possessive as well... Mistaking their partner as someone who does for him and he sets the rules and guidelines at times trying them like an object vs. someone he's sharing a life with.

Why do men stay away from "Love?"

How To BE A PLAYER (must watch) Blassic

In the midst of all that brainwashing (in this sunken place), when we are young, it's a leverage game: knowingly enjoying their counterparts' attributes, everything that's not love- The sex, control, manipulation, the excitement, sense of freedom, the praise of being promiscuous.. you nammeeeee it. All while unconsciously... not realizing that this has always been OUR privilege. *It's well known- at least to me- the privilege that men have in this world... but for the sake of the blog/topic* of just being a man and taking advantages towards women, having it our way like the Burger King menu along with a $5 box from popeyes for shits and giggle. Why give up a sense of freedom and power when we can venture out and do as we please, with minimal backlash and repercussions? We, at times, see the daunting effects of love when women display their own heartbreak (who wants to fall into that?) If anything, I've always experienced an overwhelming disparity of who gets hurt through these love relationships, it indeed has been women more times that it has been men.. One larger reason why men stay away from love is because those men have ultimately been sideniggas before, conquering another man's girlfriend or who were able to be with other women who were in "established or loved" relationship. What's the point, when the proof seems to be in the pudding? Doesn't sound like such a good deal.. no lie, even to me at times (i'll go half on a baby tho)

Temptation (Yes, women can be scum bags 2)

Why do men fear "Love?"

The fear of losing all that power, that emotional impenetrability. It's a strength, believe me, I've long yearned to have that careless and excessive carefree and irrational behavior when I was in my more youthful years... Now I be caring about shit. The more you feel = the more you care... which leaves a wide open slam dunk to straight ass vulnerability, like kind of losing a sense of power over this hold, like a hold on your debit card. Feels like you can't do anything, that's overall annoying to encounter especially when you're invested in it. Aside from the power aspect, another aspect includes insecurity or what we have witnessed, is a wasted of emotional investment. No partner wants to be cheated and men are masters of their own screw ups but men are experienced in this lane, we know it oh so well from seeing it first hand as children, praised in movies, and by personal experience. So when approaching a relationship with a full chance of commitment... that's our public enemy, our number one fear. Aside from that, is fear of overall loss of someone who they value, someone who has exposed them to a level of affection, acceptance, and that nurturing feeling that we rarely get. That's something men aren't exposed to: that excess level of comfort and what seems to be an irreplaceable experience... and that can all be done away with a simple slip up or the prospect of a woman outgrowing a man, losing interest... even feeling that they need a better suitor in future. This fear of losing freedom or control of our emotionless fortress, seems to set a fire.... and we don't seem to be all that powerful after all that is taken away.

Men pending their Heartache

The Break-UP (peep how he acts during his breakup)

Most men are extremely territorial, aggressive, and egotistical. So when we finally fall deep in love, and for whatever reason the heartbreak might have been caused by (if they were truly in love), the pain of losing someone you valued or cared for feels unimaginable so i can't really comprehend it, but i can just imagine it's an equation similar to "fuck that bitch x... i wish i had done this and that differently = complete distraught irrational man." Men also go through a dramatic life change... it can be very negative to extremely positive, I'll mention and play out, most by the subjects listed below. Try and expose what i have witnessed, encountered, read, and even taken examples from shows and movies what plays out through a man's mind post heartache and what he does and goes through, it can be scary... very scary

BEHAVIOR: i must begin with the bad, because there is no true good way to go through a heartbreak. It isn't an easy transition so men engage in unhealthy behaviors such as 

• obsessive alcohol or drug use, getting random mood swings
• gaining/losing excessive amount of weight at a short amount of time,
• extreme lack of self care and maintenance, 
• alienating friends, family, odd or unnecessary spending habits
• creep or stalk, harass their ex-partner, slandering, and making up false rumors
• engaging in extreme sport or activities that will cause injuries (to get attention from their EX)

ACTIONS: they may even think of harming themselves... sadly there are and have been numerous of cases where the weight of a love lost is far too much for some men to handle which makes men dangerous.. Frightfully a disturbing number of those incidents of these heartbroken men become very abusive toward their past partners and dangerous... raping, harming, and even killing those around them are extreme vile, disgusting vile and cowardly selfish acts. it felt hard writing that truth cause it happens and far too often that i hear, some go further and go to the lengths of committing suicide... it's one subject i really won't engage in but if it's worth any to my audience, it's never worth such lengths. As vulgar as that might seem, men are like that. 

ahhh the famous WHAT COULD HAVE BEEN...

THE PICK UP: LOVE WITH A CAUTION

There's no immediate cure for a heartbreak, gentlemen, so I'm just give some hypothetical advice. Even if it went out on good or bad terms, personally.. this is just me: Just forget about her, she got no room in ya emotional bank anymore, you deadass overdrafting. That can fuck up something good with a new person in future. After you get burned, don't burn the other person (hurt people hurt people)... to be honest: Avoid even the stage of being friends, you don't need them here and there, or at least be but from a very, very far distance.. Can't stress it enough... LEAVE THE EX. What we also not about to do is become emotionally irrational enough to expose any videos, images, or pictures... that's wild immature my guysz. Grow up... secondly, you are entitled to your freedom of speech.. not gonna deny ya the right of the first amendment... do ya. So talk ya shit and slander away with reason, eventually... get over yourself. Hey you can fuck every chick you want BUT it isn't gonna help fill that void.. but hey fuck it..  you're single, enjoy your once lost freedom... just remember you've been there before and now KNOW how it feels. Show some growth mah niggsz.. shit you probably know the feeling more than once (can't be me). At the very least, try to empathize, selfish dick.. don't be a stalker either, you're gonna do more damage than good, don't surprise her with gifts, shit can blow up right on your face no matter the gesture... and btw I also mean like social media stalking, basically the same difference. Lastly DO NOT HARM HER OR KILL YOURSELF there are literally tons of women in this fucking world to put yourself or even considering harming someone of your little heartache shit literally fucking happens all the time with women and you don't see the male population dwindling... THE LAST LAST ADVICE: time literally heals all wounds. If anything, block her... if it was that BAD and it was a distant memory... stay and be cool/cordial and suffer temptation from time to time.. or countless jabs and subs. To each ya own. Just know the value of what you once had and have it as a burning memory, love is real. MY 2 CENTS... that's men pending heartache and love.

Women are the NEW MEN

Women are the NEW men

A room of powerful women, i'll bend the knee so hard i'll break both of my knee cap

Yup, you read it. I'm insinuating just that: women are becoming the new men and I'm all the way the fuck here for it.  I'm in the bleachers screaming against the home team. Like a New Yorker cheering for the Boston Red Sox, like a current Duke undergrad rooting for the North Carolina Tar-Heels. Yes, I'm seeing the same empowering attitude, moves, and grit from today's women that resembled men in the past, only that they're looking at our blue print with disgust and making it better, enhancing their game with performance enhanced pettiness. No longer blinded by man's structural ways of suppressing women. There are countless of women leaders who were brave, educated, experienced, and knowledgeable in the past to single out only one, but because of their efforts, women are different, for the fucking better. Now we have a diverse level of representation of outstanding women in all areas: in the political aspect, such as Hillary Clinton and exemplary leaders like my ex Michelle Obama, undeniable talented women such as Rihanna, Beyonce, Serena Williams, and my up and coming baby moms Cardi B, and finally better representation in cinema roles and shows such as Gal Gadot (Wonder Woman), Kerry Washington (Scandal), Issa Rae (Insecure), The cast of Orange is the New Black *Cast constituted of mainly women* and lastly my future wife Daenerys of the House Targaryen, the First of Her Name, The Unburnt, Queen of the Andals, the Rhoynar and the First Men, Queen of Meereen, Khaleesi of the Great Grass Sea, Protector of the Realm, Lady Regnant of the Seven Kingdoms, Breaker of Chains and Mother of Dragons (Emilia Clarke actor on Game Of Thrones, the best fucking show in the planet). Some of the sudden changes i've seen in women today, and im happy for the dawn of these new days and shit:

Unapologetic

Never apologize for yourself ladies, remember all these bitchassniggas is ya sons

t's a breath of fresh air to see a larger population of empowered women, not accepting society's shackles of what a woman is suppose to be by welcoming and being comfortable with who they are in all perspectives... be it their features, looks, complexion, finances, lifestyle, and overall success. The vision of the weak, vulnerable woman has always been painted in history... not no more my niggas, or at least not for so long. The realization of their empowerment can boil down as simple as women noticing that they do not need validation from anyone- friends or family, male or female. Just by ignoring man's old rhetorics, by being their unapologetic selves in whatever fashion, getting rid of old mindsets and shaking off the manipulation of man's ideal "woman" and becoming the women they want & quiet frankly need to be. One of the ways that I'm seeing this being done is by women normalizing the same behavior/actions that men get away with and mimicking it, from our promiscuous sex life, our aptitude of being emotionless, and desire for power and control. One of the many perks of being a man is the habit of rarely needing to explain ourselves for whatever action we do, the glorious benefit of being applauded for certain actions where as a women would get degraded for it and at times they face consequences.. BUT this is something that women are kind of realizing that doesn't make sense... doesn't make sense to me either, because why?... Women SHOULD be able to do as they please with little explanation or none at all, although it shouldn't be that much of a realization. Women are tackling double standards and making just one overall standard. What is acceptable for one party should be acceptable for the other... slowly but surely they're chipping away the stigmas they face on a day in and day out basis. I mean, I can advocate and shit but women are loud of enough, keep on pushing that envelope.

2 Can Play that Game 

Give no fucks like this bitch right here 

Where women used to take the short end of stick in relationships, plenty of women are getting hip to the game... where women once wouldn't even think of cheating are now fucking niggas in the blink of an eye. You play games, shorty gonna go play hot potato on a dick. (basically curving some dicks and giving it up to selective hot ones, you know how the game goes) They got the bloodhound nose, the minute they sniff any speculation they're on the move... women should know they really hold all the power, men are expected to cheat, nothing new. But imagine the turn around if men walk into relationships expecting women to cheat? That as a norm? You know, treating your s/o the way they treat you? (just a thought) another example of a woman's edge over a man in this situation... what they don't take advantage of is that they are more likely to receive an outstanding number of attention- from snap-messages, insta-DM, or Twitter DM... they're not that far away from responding to a dude with a decent enough approach and features... this is minus the random catcallings they might experience. Let's switch focus on the suitors' aspect; women are also not tolerating being dictated as they once were; words such as "you can't wear, go, put or do this and that" doesn't hold the same merit that it once did, shit is rather foreign to some women now. Especially those who have a realization that they're in control, not needing to emotionally stress themselves but becoming critical thinkers and even becoming selfish at times, be as opportunists as men can be... they know their value, and quiet frankly, are more emotionally stable when it comes to these things than men are. Catering to the title, women have become just as much or even more savages than men are... single women have proven to take on normalizing and sometimes even enjoying the prospect of taking another woman's man. Let's just say they're also far more effective at that than we will ever be. It all comes with the territory of being carefree, and not accepting the norms of society, girls just wanna have fun and are now actually having their own fun with or without judgment (keep it, my loves, as you should).
  

Role-ROLE-role-RoLe-rOle?

A WOMAN HAS NO ROLE

Men are born and encouraged to be and do whatever they want... on the other hand, women are born in a world where society, or even their parents, dictate and scrutinize their every little move. So instead of the idea that they can achieve anything they want to accomplish at birth, this thought is always or mostly met with resistance or shut down, forbidden! and deemed unacceptable. It is basically a crime for a woman to be, act, or do things without a field of criticism and why? Because we don't accept women being free, they are given a "role" that suppresses them... history has stigmatized them, pushed on them for years the same narrative of just being a housewife, a mother, someone who just cooks, cleans, and nurtures. This segment of "role" is used to actually vanish that idea of a "role" ... we no longer live in a primitive time or in the actual animal kingdom. We're on top of the fucking food chain, us humans. I bring that up because we are the species who are conscious of how this bitch of a world kind of works, the mother fucking ones chosen. Aside for some idiots who can't grasp the bigger picture of the most simplest concepts. So, here it is: the path a woman takes is no ones concern BUT her very own, be it that she's the provider and her husband is a stay at home dad... she's an independent stripper fucking over a rich asshole and becomes rich out of it... dating another woman and is playing mommy and daddy... CEO of a company... a single mother doing what she has to... a regular schmegular degular housewife... a chick exposing her body for whatever purpose... if she has X amount of men, that doesn't make her anything but a woman who likes to fuck... whatever a woman does with her body and self is no one's damn concern but that individual woman. No other MAN nor WOMAN should JUDGE, CARE, OR BE CONCERNED about what a woman wants to be or does with herself and body. The minute we understand that, any form or way a woman wants to be successful is her form, be it vulgar, not every path is going to be stereotyped way of success. It doesn't make you less or more of a woman being yourself, ya'll define yourselves not us and you wear it like armor :)

Ending Empowered

MY baby uniting powerful women for a better not judging at all

Ya bitches heard it in numerous forms and ways... If there's a message I wanna spread, it's that women should really follow their own instinct on being themselves in the most carefree way as possible. Encourage one another, no matter what ya'll wanna pursue. Men undeniable give women shit for anything and make life difficult. It's like they can't see them having fun or enjoying shit and wanna rain on their parade... but sometimes women are worse because.. yeah, men, give ya shit.. but ya women give each other fucking hell, sometimes it's shocking how against ya are with one another, shit's like pent up or something, Ya'll a completely different level of hostile at times, but there are women who believe women should conduct themselves in a certain manner... judging every step of the way. But ya hoes need to be able to stick together through thick and thin and keep pushing for these norms and change of character... don't hold each other back... we've been doing it for centuries now. Do not accept people's opinion but your own, anything ya do is your choosing and ya shouldn't allow anyone to make you feel bad for it. Your idea of success and what you do with your body is ultimately what YOU do, there's no second chances. Don't live in a box or bubble. I do whatever the hell I want with my body and I don't hear uproars... most men DON'T, so why should ya? Ya dead don't have to acknowledge none of this... I'm not telling ya to start an underground faction of women and rebel.. even though that shit would be sexy as fuck. I'll bend the knee. Just look out for each other & that no matter what you do, you are still women... nothing makes you more or less but being who you are.

(Shout out to my editor @carolalaflaca aka bunszofsteel, hop on them DMS, probably a huge audience of woman. but hey ladies who knows)

The Exaggeration Of EL Hombre Dominicano

The Exaggeration Of EL Hombre Dominicano

The Exaggeration Of A Male Culture

Dominican brothers, es hora de sacar esa maldita hookitz, throw on a bachata and pop open a presidente. So, Bueno, let me start with: I'm not 1000% in touch with my roots, aside from the fact that I can dance bachata, my Spanish is aight, plus I can read in Spanish, and read Junot Diaz's books (idk if that one applies tho). Last thing I want ya to think is that I'm really trying to educate ya. This shit is more of an informative TROLL, I will bring to light tho this misconception of my Dominican brothers... All while exposing this falssssssse ass stigma that be plaguing us. For clarification purposes, I'm not advocating that we're angels by all means, Dominican men are still indeed men, on average MOST niggas ain't shit (keyword: MOST). Instead of being categorized and generalized like any other MEN from other CULTURES... My brethren tend to get segregated from this same exact group! for doing what seems to be STANDARD shittt!!... That ALL niggas do!! No matter the race or culture. But man, there's this hyper level of exaggeration, shit, ya chicks exaggerate so much ya can put a Dominican mother to shame *round of applause* Porque no hay una, que EXAGERAN COMO EXAGERA la madre dominicana and the pettiness? When a Dominican man is mentioned? it's unmatched. Now I'll be the first to say: I'm honestly not offended about these far-fetched stereotypes of ours... outraged? Not in the slightest... Cause any publicity is good publicity in my eyes. I just wanted to write some ish... Plus putting a Dominican man in a positive LIGHT is sure to drive a good portion of you bitches blind with rage, (oh the uproar). Lastly the theme of this.. is to.. kind of expose this shit ya be dragging way too much, touch on things like: why ya truly mad? What draws you bitches to us Dominicans in the first place? Why we are the way we are? And lastly because the slander doesn't add up at all... literary 

La Madre Dominicana

the exaggeratioooonnnnnn

Aside from having all the features of a video vixen up until they hit their late 50s, La Madre Dominicana embodies, numerous of positive attributes. Dominican mothers ARE amazing BUT if I can just give you someeee details: they're out spoken as shit, lack sensitivity, call it how it is and some, super expressive and the queens of over-exaggerating situations. They are the definition of el mismo "diablo" (for you niggas who want a dominican woman) that goes without saying that their advice comes from the heart or *anger*... Our own mothers program us to seriously be cautious and be very wary of women. If ya bright enough to understand how racism is taught, THEN in a Dominican household, you're taught to not only trust  the opposite sex but anything at that manner.... friends included, yourself too. you hear "cuidado con tu mismo" in most dominican house hold. Our mothers are the ones who tell us how to move, and condone our own exploration of other women. Raised with so many expressions about women drilled in our minds, our mothers advice's. examples:

"las mujeres no sirven,"

"nosotras somos mas peor que los hombres,"

"somos el mismo diablo,"

"Cuidado con esas perras en calor,"

"mujeren que le pican la creta"

*horrible things, I can go on*

Ya can see how that can be a conflict? Ain't no Dominican nigga wanna be the model companion after countless years of hearing the opposite genders are perras... that shit is with in our consciousness... Of course we gonna be insensitive and careless. Mom set it up that way, told us ya ain't shit, y cojimo oreja. If you think about it, it's kind of.. sort of...  technically.. it's ah..  Dominican WOMAN's fault, ya the one's to blame and cover up for us when we are younger,ya never sell us out. (Gracia mi reyna :p) . What sucks about this is that we grow up with this confirmation-bias, where someone (mom, dad, siblings) gives us a bias ass opinion. As we mature and the years go by, we feed into the shit so hard when a bitch does some shakey shit we jump into "fuck mom was right, these bitches ain't shit." Especially hearing those sayings for so many years, you're bound to confirm one of mama dearest bias, directly or indirectly. 

El Fax - Slander Doesn't Fit The Numbers

1. Dominicans overall make up, about roughly 1.4 million of the U.S population
2. Let's say we slice that number to male vs female Dominicans.. I'll split that number down the middle for easy math and shit which is 0.7ish (700,000)
3. Let's add in the factor that all Dominican men aren't straight, not all of them are mature enough for sexual intercourse and we can assume some are hurt and shit.. so let's knock I'll say roughly 0.2 (200,000) of the population (deadass, i don't know it could be more or less, it's an outlier) 
4. Leaving us with about a straight male population who inflict this overwhelming emotional level of damage and whom receive this unnecessary slander and uproar around roughly 0.3-0.5 of the U.S population (300,000-500,000)
5. For demographic purposes Dominicans reside mainly on the southeast and the northeastern area of the US. *check map above for full Dominican representation across the US* 

1) I'm not a scientist. 

2) I'm not great with numbers. 

3) I don't conduct field studies, 

4) I do not need to specialize on any of those...... 

5) To understand ya bitches are JUST MAD HURT.

Although I'm not any of those specialists that I mentioned (Aside from number 5) I am hella certified on searching shit on the most powerful engine in the world: Google. So I conducted my own little study/research.... So ya hoes are indicating that this very very very very very very very fucking minuscule population of men are causing this much emotional trauma around the south and northeastern areas in this country? (where we mostly reside) I JUST REFUSE TO BELIEVE IT, remember the focus group are "straight Dominican men" (S.D.M) which if you look at the numbers from el FAX.

You can see I guess-timated roughly around 300,000-500,000 *GIVE OR TAKE* Now the map above REPRESENTS the full blown 1.4 million Dominican American/Immigrant population. Now, this where i I wish I had a map that represented just the S.D.M, BECAUSE YA WOULD FEEL AWFULLY FUCKING IDIOTIC,  cause these 500,000 more or less niggas can't possible be causing this much damage, because we are talked as like a global pandemic whenever we're spoken about. You would assume that we were an army, but here comes the riddle: How can Dominican niggas unleash so much hurt if we FUCKING BARELY EXIST IN THE U.S. in the first place!? 

If we go to any state that we aren't heavily populated! (not called NY) we won't be recognized!! We will either be literally Black, White, mixed of those two, or for courtesy purposes JUST Mexican. NOTHING ELSE, there isn't that many of us in our own damn country, nobody in Wisconsin, Utah or Denver is gonna see me and say "hey, look at that, he's Dominican" -__-. So, ladies since we now UNDERSTAND that we are one of the smaller demographics, we can AGREE that there's no way we can possible be this Super-Mega-Ultra-Power-Hungry-Out-Of-This-Planet-Created-In-A-Lab-Scumbag that ya fictionally create in ya head (*exaggeration is the theme*) to make ya selves feel better cause he cheated on you. If we added the numbers up and put out a dating resume of which culture actually cheats the most.. I need ya hoes to understand WE WOULDN'T FUCKING COME CLOSE not even top 5. So can we all say: dragging itttttt, debunked or nah? (or too dumb)

What is it about DOMINICAN MEN?

COTORRA: This is not like me.. but I'll be the first to say that I WISH! I was hicked out enough to unleash some of the heat my Dominican brothers be saying. They have this oddly offensive catcalling. That's quite creative but also very funny, It leaves you completely astonished. Ladies just experienced and witnessed this one sentence,line or phrase that touched base with multiple genres and tapped into three different emotions. Leaving you at a state of shock,which renders you helpless. Shit, its so other sometime that you can't help but process what was just said... Which leaves a lot of ya hoes open (ay un año NUEVO) and laughing at examples like "Diablo maldita, tu con toda esa culva y yo sin freno... que dios te bendiga azarosa" I'm telling you, ya left so confused that ya just fuck with it. We also pretty decent with SPANGLISH, like it just flows, tu me entiende? What chick can't get hip to that?

CULTURA: Dominican people have this carefree demeanor, so carefree that even in the face of our darkest hour we make light of the situation, joke around. keeping a festive mood and shit. There's a reason why people don't take Dominican men serious. Most scenario is a "todo es mental" approach, "everything is gonna be alright" *meteors strikes* during the most catastrophic of situations. Chopped arm? Put some vaporub on it. Flood in their whole town? Fuck it, go outside, get pots and pans, throw a block party while trees and cars are floating. Has a complete different family? Fuck it, she'll get over it. You kind of see how having such a carefree outlook kind of hinders us. People may think we're heartless... we just don't really give a fuck or find a big deal out of shit we have very little control over. What can we possible do but "fuck it,hoy se bebe"

COMEN TOTO: I'm convinced this is the main reason why ya go nuts over us, I don't think there is another group of people aside from lesbians who loves to eat the pussy as much as Dominican niggas. I get it ladies... most niggas can barely even make you cum *even us*(see how I included all men)... BUT we eat the box like its our sworn duty of the pussy watch... we must protect that box and eat it. We just love to reciprocate a service that we openly pride ourselves in. Let's be honest ladies: who doesn't want a nigga who goes down on ya on command? "Sin PERO" Ready to cater between those thighs. Ladies, realistically should ya really have time to educate a full grown man? Is it even fair to ask to get ya box waxed? Not with a Dominican, NOPE!. shit you don't gotta ask once cause it's already in our minds. This has to be a main cause as to why ya hoes get mad: to lose such an asset, seems rather devastating. If i had a shorty who sucks me off from dusk till dawn on the daily, I'll be petty and upset too, without a pero. I can empathize.  

CUALIDAD: One extreme factor that aids our cause, is that we are a culture. Now we all share that, but our genetic make up varies. Most Dominicans are a mix of African, Indigenous, and European decent, give or take. So it's pretty fucking safe to say you're getting a motherfucking rare package here ok, sweetheart... Shit I can round 20 Dominican niggas and ya hoes can pick ya flavor type shit, LITERALLY. We range from morenito to blanquito twilight looking niggas, baby we got ALL shadess. Ya hoes are just mad unappreciative., (now I'm offended) We have this very unique genetic make up of all those races, you add our Latino culture and the limited Dominicans overall in the U.S. you start to notice how much of a RARITY we really are (best of ALL WORLDs). Ya hoes are getting a fucking bargain... instead of complaining and bitching, be lucky ya ever had one! Or don't be selfish. Sharing is caring. We are at shortage after all and overall so be mindful to ya fella, it isn't fair we don't match the population so we have to extend this rare love to as many women as possible, It's never too late to advocate ladies or share. 

CARIÑO: We should be the people of love, more than the French cause deadass idk why they even get the title. Must be the accent or cause they're white, but have them niggas ever danced bachata or merengue, under the influence of alcohol? I think the fuck not, theres always a potential baby-shower looming after a Dominican function. Babies are made in those circumstances,. An ugly ass Dominican nigga can come up with a goddess with the right moves on the dance floor and add Brugal and there goes your Dominican Love Sotry. Like, you see the passion and romance, the level of intimacy, it's like a courtship dance to manipulate your suitor... the drinking and the music playing in the background. The sweet nothings we spill during those five minutes. What's lost in the trenches is that Dominican men are passionate lovers, but niggas can't display their romance cause everyone thinks we are being "tiguerazos." it's really mistaken with and overwhelming aura that screams out "Yo No Soy PENDEJO." so is easy to think we will cheat, bitch you not gonna play us.Niggas dead cheat for insurance purposes, Ya hoes need to know that every Dominican has a little Anthony Santos and Romeo in him. We just trying to love ya hoes, but ya make it so difficult. 

"Buenooooo" - A Dominican Proverb 

Now that you got all these facts, you should be asking yourself, "Why aren't you with a Dominican man in the first place?" or "Why isn't he eating your box at this moment?" Probably the real reason you're upset. It's time to cut the shit and find yourself another one, es un año nuevo, mujeres you heard what DJ Kass said. Don't let your friends discourage you from finding that Dominican man and building or giving one a chance. Don't allow your friends' experiences cripple you off of a rare love ma. There are deadass so many Dominican men that stand out and fathers (hombre serio ass niggas)... yeah we have scumbags but I know plenty of outstanding Dominicans who wouldn't think twice of cheating and shame on ya hoes who know this y tapan el sol con un deo, ya the worse, vende patria, especially if your pops is a good example and you out here slandering us. Ya just be wanting to ride the wave and with only so many Dominicans in the first place, there's no way all ya hoes having these interactions or experiences with us in the first place. So this shit not adding up to me, like ya all dated Dominicans? Really? All of us that barely exist in the first place...  Let's also cut the generalizing unless we talking men overall, or just don't date us with ya hyper hurt ass. Lmao ya dead amplified a culture of men cause the loving was so good that the let down gave ya trauma, it's very bittersweet. I just wanna know how this slander on us first came to be... who started this rebellion? So, bitches, find yourself a Dominican man and build.

Boyz, Why Are WE LIKE THIS?!

So aight BOOM, check it. this is the story all about how my life got flipped-turned went upside down, i started chilling with a couple of b.. nah let me stop. its about time right? ok, cool lets move on. Ya see the title so lets bump all those formalities. As men one of the biggest hardships we have to face while growing up, was.... figuring ya out, (YA=Women) yeah, that shit is still impossible to figure out. Still conducting my studies, i have an all purpose research study soon to come out an shit. As a child i had a certain perception of women, prototypically people are influenced by societies norm, be it media, siblings and or family (can't forget them niggas and shit). Which was basically the foundation on how most men would interact with women in they life. My issue here is... you see so many times MEN ARE ALWAYS TO BLAME FOR THEIR THOT WAYS!! People just like to blame you for being a "thot" or shame you to hell because you have an unwillingness to commit, etc. etc, BUT HOW THE FUCK DID WE GET THERE IN THE FIRST PLACE!? no ANSWER?! this is why I'm here my niggz. to answer one of women's most sought out question "why are niggas the way they are" So and so forth. Granted men should be held accountable for any and all actions we take, BUT i won't fucking stand here and say we are the only one's to blame...  Ladies ya aren't totally out of the picture of this "blame"  this is some of ya fault too, sometimes the most.. shit Yeezy made the song the blame game for a reason and HEY. it may not be directly the woman now who was the blame.. but the women before her. Hey could have been a niggas moms or siblings: lets begin with the Stages men go through...

Exactly how niggas look when they took they shots

The Carlton Stage: Middle School
Yes the "Carlton Stage", ever been one of those chubby kids? more on the nerdy side of the spectrum? Or just not that very appealing? welcome to what i like to call the Carlton stage, so when growing up as a young adult, "looks" and "popularity" are everything. Most men who go through this stage can easily tell you how hard it was for them to even land a conversation with someone they were interested in, god forbid you said you was interested in one of you're peers, and you faithfully holding these attributes. Just like my mans Carlton, blood got dubbed and shut down as if he was running for MVP. Lets be serious no girl wanted to date a "Carlton" the real life or for the sake of the blog, the nerdy one. lol i've heard and received the comment " he UGLY" numerous of times, and man thats like a dagger to the heart. Specially in middle school, the viciousness was unparalleled not even necessary b. The level of superficialness at that young stage is cruel, its deadass like the hunger games and they probably use to cut that ass like you was a slice of bacon. The curve and your unlikeliness was you're utter doom. You got girls out here trying to date all these other dudes that look like little girls, fucking pony haired ass niggas. I'm a move on though, like any young adult you going to hold on to some level of resentment, you getting dogged for 3 years, how could you not! All the time dealing with these "confident killers" will forcefully shape you're views of women, you presume to doubt yourself, why even bother? It takes a toll on you, being it be positive or negative. The one upside which you or ya peers don't know is that you don't always stay that way (least i didn't, a nigga got lucky)  you don't always stay big, and you not always gonna be 5'1(i could be lying, it could end worse. but i'm not a shrink or psychiatrist, even my doctor told me i was gonna be 6'5 but i'm standing at 6'2 so yeah) if you ain't change man then... sheesh good luck bloooOD cruel world and shit. but not the end of the world

Peep This Dumb Shit he saying

The Jazz Stage: High School

Fuck it he bags in the future

This right here is ya SWAG! you step into High School a bigger animal. Niggas social skills are pretty decent. You start maturing and shit, no longer the chubster and now you grow some inches (pause). Like my mans Jazz, you become extremely confident, all though he's an idiot (like most males in HS), extremely confident regardless of how dumb his actions might be, taking more risks, pushing boundaries. Keeping reckless at times (Jazz writing all over it) you either was loved or hated and quiet frankly you don't care. The curve has become second nature thus not as bothersome anymore, but you no longer a slack in the looks department,(Again i can't speak for most or all niggas, just accept ya dubness) this new confidence you build has got you on a small power trip, women are actually interested in you "NOW", more then one. Shit, you never had this amount of attention since you was first born, this is foreign to you. you've been receiving the curve at a clean 200mph. Now you just adjust, and if you see a hanging curve.. if you play baseball you know what comes next. for further clarification for my womennnn lmao (In baseball, a hanging curve is generally thought to be a very hittable pitch, usually implying the ease in which a player can hit a home run. A hanging curve is an easy task in which the chances of success are high)  All those years getting the curve and now you change slightly and the flock change? NAH B, THERE'S SOME MUH-FUCKING HELL TO PAY. so......... SOooo fucking what if you break a girls heart? They've been dubbing ya shit with no regard, why should you regard their feelings? (tune in CHINX - FEELINGS, R.I.P to the gawd) *give a fuck about you feelings*, *who gives a fuckkk*, my bad, so yeah.. it's a vicious circle, but while you do explore yourself, you even end up killing you're own identity for the sake of being liked. Only engaging certain topics you deadass don't care about, with-holding information to please ya peers (you know some dummy shit), the superficialness is still very strong at this age, anyone telling you other wise is bullshitting, none of ya had no heart of gold so please pack that shit up and mack out. Now you doing the curving, YUP YOU ARE THE CAPTAIN NOW  (only for a little). From never having sex to engaging in it. lastly well.. Shit even encounter your own heartbreaks, but that HEARTBREAK... smh, lord..

The WILL SMITH Stage: College
The stage we all been waiting for, by this time you came to your own, maturation at its prime, you on ya apex predator shit, the hunt is easy. pinnacle of ya life. Full grown, and no longer considered a child, you've basically seen it or done it all (can be interpreted the wrong way). Lets be honest everyone loves Will Smith, you're funny, charming, and chilled. A "good guy" with some bad still lingering from HS. At this point "YOU JUST WANNA CHILL", the carlton stage is just a faint memory, holding no grudges, bitterness and pettiness is childish to you. Throw all that shit out the window... All though you do evolve to this more self concerned asshole, you definitely don't wan't to go back to Carlton tho, god forbid that fucking shit happen. Now you require all this versalitity, talking to women has become a snooze, you don't deal in  relationship or frankly wanna commit. You fake woke too on the low, so you don't wanna be taken as fool either, passed experience has shown. Becoming more understanding that women have the same needs as men, you know they wanna live as well. But you don't wanna commit because all your life you've been on a path of reluctancy, Now you face what is fucked up about this level of achievement. The innocent bystander that you are. You witness ultimately what relationships puts people through... *Possible* brutal break ups, crazy bitches, cheating, ex-bf/gf, jealousy, trust issues and crazy bitches. You wanna steer away from that nonsense experience so why not live life like a bachelor, to have tolerate that? for the sake of one person? (NOPE,) for almost a decade worth of being unnoticed or given a chance until well now... at this point why commit when we got the proof in the pudding here.. but this where it backfire for us men... some men never had real a crack at being in a relationship and when we (YES, WE IN THIS TOGETHER NOW GUISE This time..)   inexperience it and eventually leading to a pending heart break and man HOW DO MEN FALL, (a blog for another day)

The Process 

As a young boy i was raised in a household full guys, from different ages. In total a grand 7 of us, Ok so whats the point? what does this have to do with the views of women and perception of us niggas and why we are they way we are? Imagine as a child you're main influence is your older brothers, and cousins. Here i am at a young age, watching my older brother bringing countless of women to the house, he would bring one after another, after another, that shit was borderline crazy. Its like nigga was pulling these bitches from a factory.. idk how he pulled it off. I never wanted to be like him, nigga barely spoke english and he played baseball, nonetheless this nigga was still my older brother, had to idolize him in one aspect, well the only aspect we had in common, we shared the same passion for women. As the years go on, i see this consistently, next my older cousin, doing the same thing. Eventually theres me the middle of the bunch, i would see my elder siblings getting away with every trick of the book and the younger one's getting caught trying to do the same following their foot steps, as the middle child i was the outlier out of the bunch, back in the day i lacked confidence, i was some short chubby/fat kid, bagged no women whatsoever, playing basketball was an after thought. You can just imagine the level of b.s i had to endure hearing, heres a few and niggas weren't kind about this shit "Mike, you bag no bitches", "talk to me when you get some pussy, nigga", "Ayo fat ass, get all the bitches.. FOH, SIKE", *my home boys would come visit* "Yo, your BF here" smh, niggas use to violate my shit. not NO FUCKING MORE THO, lol ya get the point. My younger siblings were getting more action then i was. Even my aunts and grandma will chime in with stuff like "Y la novia/mujeres" (wheres ya GF or women) or "Ay tu, no te gusta la mujeres". (you dont like women).Ladies imagine growing up in a household were if "you fucked no bitches" was the never ending motto, it was like a creed. Shit i was like 9 years old into pokemon and into basketball heavy, in middle school i use to day dream about shooting ball or just watching that show, but i was hearing slander all the way up to HS, at that point i no longer was that fat chubby kid, who got dubbed by ladies and the family pressing the situation, instead these niggas and old flames created what most niggas are TODAY! so ladies this deadass some of ya fault and some of MAMAS FAULTS  (PS, don't be a pussy and awww but this shit)

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