Boyz, Why Are WE LIKE THIS?!

So aight BOOM, check it. this is the story all about how my life got flipped-turned went upside down, i started chilling with a couple of b.. nah let me stop. its about time right? ok, cool lets move on. Ya see the title so lets bump all those formalities. As men one of the biggest hardships we have to face while growing up, was.... figuring ya out, (YA=Women) yeah, that shit is still impossible to figure out. Still conducting my studies, i have an all purpose research study soon to come out an shit. As a child i had a certain perception of women, prototypically people are influenced by societies norm, be it media, siblings and or family (can't forget them niggas and shit). Which was basically the foundation on how most men would interact with women in they life. My issue here is... you see so many times MEN ARE ALWAYS TO BLAME FOR THEIR THOT WAYS!! People just like to blame you for being a "thot" or shame you to hell because you have an unwillingness to commit, etc. etc, BUT HOW THE FUCK DID WE GET THERE IN THE FIRST PLACE!? no ANSWER?! this is why I'm here my niggz. to answer one of women's most sought out question "why are niggas the way they are" So and so forth. Granted men should be held accountable for any and all actions we take, BUT i won't fucking stand here and say we are the only one's to blame...  Ladies ya aren't totally out of the picture of this "blame"  this is some of ya fault too, sometimes the most.. shit Yeezy made the song the blame game for a reason and HEY. it may not be directly the woman now who was the blame.. but the women before her. Hey could have been a niggas moms or siblings: lets begin with the Stages men go through...

Exactly how niggas look when they took they shots

The Carlton Stage: Middle School
Yes the "Carlton Stage", ever been one of those chubby kids? more on the nerdy side of the spectrum? Or just not that very appealing? welcome to what i like to call the Carlton stage, so when growing up as a young adult, "looks" and "popularity" are everything. Most men who go through this stage can easily tell you how hard it was for them to even land a conversation with someone they were interested in, god forbid you said you was interested in one of you're peers, and you faithfully holding these attributes. Just like my mans Carlton, blood got dubbed and shut down as if he was running for MVP. Lets be serious no girl wanted to date a "Carlton" the real life or for the sake of the blog, the nerdy one. lol i've heard and received the comment " he UGLY" numerous of times, and man thats like a dagger to the heart. Specially in middle school, the viciousness was unparalleled not even necessary b. The level of superficialness at that young stage is cruel, its deadass like the hunger games and they probably use to cut that ass like you was a slice of bacon. The curve and your unlikeliness was you're utter doom. You got girls out here trying to date all these other dudes that look like little girls, fucking pony haired ass niggas. I'm a move on though, like any young adult you going to hold on to some level of resentment, you getting dogged for 3 years, how could you not! All the time dealing with these "confident killers" will forcefully shape you're views of women, you presume to doubt yourself, why even bother? It takes a toll on you, being it be positive or negative. The one upside which you or ya peers don't know is that you don't always stay that way (least i didn't, a nigga got lucky)  you don't always stay big, and you not always gonna be 5'1(i could be lying, it could end worse. but i'm not a shrink or psychiatrist, even my doctor told me i was gonna be 6'5 but i'm standing at 6'2 so yeah) if you ain't change man then... sheesh good luck bloooOD cruel world and shit. but not the end of the world

Peep This Dumb Shit he saying

The Jazz Stage: High School

Fuck it he bags in the future

This right here is ya SWAG! you step into High School a bigger animal. Niggas social skills are pretty decent. You start maturing and shit, no longer the chubster and now you grow some inches (pause). Like my mans Jazz, you become extremely confident, all though he's an idiot (like most males in HS), extremely confident regardless of how dumb his actions might be, taking more risks, pushing boundaries. Keeping reckless at times (Jazz writing all over it) you either was loved or hated and quiet frankly you don't care. The curve has become second nature thus not as bothersome anymore, but you no longer a slack in the looks department,(Again i can't speak for most or all niggas, just accept ya dubness) this new confidence you build has got you on a small power trip, women are actually interested in you "NOW", more then one. Shit, you never had this amount of attention since you was first born, this is foreign to you. you've been receiving the curve at a clean 200mph. Now you just adjust, and if you see a hanging curve.. if you play baseball you know what comes next. for further clarification for my womennnn lmao (In baseball, a hanging curve is generally thought to be a very hittable pitch, usually implying the ease in which a player can hit a home run. A hanging curve is an easy task in which the chances of success are high)  All those years getting the curve and now you change slightly and the flock change? NAH B, THERE'S SOME MUH-FUCKING HELL TO PAY. so......... SOooo fucking what if you break a girls heart? They've been dubbing ya shit with no regard, why should you regard their feelings? (tune in CHINX - FEELINGS, R.I.P to the gawd) *give a fuck about you feelings*, *who gives a fuckkk*, my bad, so yeah.. it's a vicious circle, but while you do explore yourself, you even end up killing you're own identity for the sake of being liked. Only engaging certain topics you deadass don't care about, with-holding information to please ya peers (you know some dummy shit), the superficialness is still very strong at this age, anyone telling you other wise is bullshitting, none of ya had no heart of gold so please pack that shit up and mack out. Now you doing the curving, YUP YOU ARE THE CAPTAIN NOW  (only for a little). From never having sex to engaging in it. lastly well.. Shit even encounter your own heartbreaks, but that HEARTBREAK... smh, lord..

The WILL SMITH Stage: College
The stage we all been waiting for, by this time you came to your own, maturation at its prime, you on ya apex predator shit, the hunt is easy. pinnacle of ya life. Full grown, and no longer considered a child, you've basically seen it or done it all (can be interpreted the wrong way). Lets be honest everyone loves Will Smith, you're funny, charming, and chilled. A "good guy" with some bad still lingering from HS. At this point "YOU JUST WANNA CHILL", the carlton stage is just a faint memory, holding no grudges, bitterness and pettiness is childish to you. Throw all that shit out the window... All though you do evolve to this more self concerned asshole, you definitely don't wan't to go back to Carlton tho, god forbid that fucking shit happen. Now you require all this versalitity, talking to women has become a snooze, you don't deal in  relationship or frankly wanna commit. You fake woke too on the low, so you don't wanna be taken as fool either, passed experience has shown. Becoming more understanding that women have the same needs as men, you know they wanna live as well. But you don't wanna commit because all your life you've been on a path of reluctancy, Now you face what is fucked up about this level of achievement. The innocent bystander that you are. You witness ultimately what relationships puts people through... *Possible* brutal break ups, crazy bitches, cheating, ex-bf/gf, jealousy, trust issues and crazy bitches. You wanna steer away from that nonsense experience so why not live life like a bachelor, to have tolerate that? for the sake of one person? (NOPE,) for almost a decade worth of being unnoticed or given a chance until well now... at this point why commit when we got the proof in the pudding here.. but this where it backfire for us men... some men never had real a crack at being in a relationship and when we (YES, WE IN THIS TOGETHER NOW GUISE This time..)   inexperience it and eventually leading to a pending heart break and man HOW DO MEN FALL, (a blog for another day)

The Process 

As a young boy i was raised in a household full guys, from different ages. In total a grand 7 of us, Ok so whats the point? what does this have to do with the views of women and perception of us niggas and why we are they way we are? Imagine as a child you're main influence is your older brothers, and cousins. Here i am at a young age, watching my older brother bringing countless of women to the house, he would bring one after another, after another, that shit was borderline crazy. Its like nigga was pulling these bitches from a factory.. idk how he pulled it off. I never wanted to be like him, nigga barely spoke english and he played baseball, nonetheless this nigga was still my older brother, had to idolize him in one aspect, well the only aspect we had in common, we shared the same passion for women. As the years go on, i see this consistently, next my older cousin, doing the same thing. Eventually theres me the middle of the bunch, i would see my elder siblings getting away with every trick of the book and the younger one's getting caught trying to do the same following their foot steps, as the middle child i was the outlier out of the bunch, back in the day i lacked confidence, i was some short chubby/fat kid, bagged no women whatsoever, playing basketball was an after thought. You can just imagine the level of b.s i had to endure hearing, heres a few and niggas weren't kind about this shit "Mike, you bag no bitches", "talk to me when you get some pussy, nigga", "Ayo fat ass, get all the bitches.. FOH, SIKE", *my home boys would come visit* "Yo, your BF here" smh, niggas use to violate my shit. not NO FUCKING MORE THO, lol ya get the point. My younger siblings were getting more action then i was. Even my aunts and grandma will chime in with stuff like "Y la novia/mujeres" (wheres ya GF or women) or "Ay tu, no te gusta la mujeres". (you dont like women).Ladies imagine growing up in a household were if "you fucked no bitches" was the never ending motto, it was like a creed. Shit i was like 9 years old into pokemon and into basketball heavy, in middle school i use to day dream about shooting ball or just watching that show, but i was hearing slander all the way up to HS, at that point i no longer was that fat chubby kid, who got dubbed by ladies and the family pressing the situation, instead these niggas and old flames created what most niggas are TODAY! so ladies this deadass some of ya fault and some of MAMAS FAULTS  (PS, don't be a pussy and awww but this shit)

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